The question is how do we heal from years of abuse from a narcissistic parent, abusive parent, or any other form of abuse. Children need to feel that both parents accept and love them for who they are, and if one parent is abusive can lead to a child feeling less than enough. So, first we must identify and understand that shaming messages and beliefs transmitted from mother/father to the child are untrue. We must replace the internalized, negative voice of the parent with a self nurturing voice. We must release the inner critic and bring in the inner lover.
EMOTIONAL WORK
We can heal the past by making peace with what happened knowing that it is something we cannot change. First start by acknowledging and honoring your emotions. Give yourself permission to feel the way that you feel. Allow yourself to cry it out, scream it out, and grieve. Get these emotions out of your body. Release these emotions from your cells (see my blog on cells have memory and the subconscious brain). This is more easily done with energy work because energy work targets the subconscious brain.
I do that helps the process of acknowledging, honoring, and releasing emotions easier. Our bodies are a bank of memories. Every event and emotion is recording in our cells like a computer saves information. As humans we need to transmute this energy that has plagued into energy that helps us thrive. Energy work is a key component to shifting human energy giving it the ability to move forward.
MENTAL WORK
Next, take a neutral perspective and bird’s eye view. With this perspective, we begin to see ourselves, others and situations more clearly. We can choose to detach from the emotion by seeing the gratitude in the situations that formed us to become the most amazing, loving, empathetic and gifted beings that we are.
We can tap into the strength of our solar plexus and choose to view the past challenges as growth. These traumatic experiences actually shifted our human selves into becoming the enlightened beings that we are. If you want to go deeper spiritually, we know that our soul chose this hard path so our human selves would grow and become enlightened. Often the souls with the biggest life missions have the hardest lives. Their challenges make them stronger and give them wisdom, strength, courage, grace, and love to help the vibration of the planet raise.
We can heal the shame and discomfort by realizing that it was a projection that was put onto us by our parent or abuser. The weight and emotional turmoil that we are carrying is often not ours. All so often we are carrying the weight because we are healers who empathize with their pain and we are trying to heal them.
CHAKRA WORK AND INNER WORK
After we have released the emotional energy work from our subconscious brains, we have to rebuild our root chakra, strengthen our solar plexus, heal our heart chakra, and realize that our throat chakra has a voice.
We need to bring ourselves stability, protection, comfort, acceptance and love -- knowing that all of it exists within ourselves. We need to shed the opinions of others and the outside world and find value in ourselves. We need to root to our own self-worth -- feeling our own worth in every cell of our body.
We need to rebuild confidence and courage, find resolve within ourselves, encourage ourselves, be friendly to ourselves, and be assertive in the outside world.
Let's look further into the Many Ways to Heal
Love & Light,
Cara Deptula - Intuitive Energy Healer & Detox Coach
https://awakenyourbliss.wixsite.com/love
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